I recently met a very old friend of mine. Over lunch, he lamented,” My daughter seems to have changed so much. She was an angel even till a year ago. Now we don’t even know what she is thinking- and when she might explode!”
I did a little bit of digging around and found that parents around the world- regardless of culture, religion, geography go through a common story. The story is something like this – “My molly-cuddly sweetie-pie of yesterday suddenly seems a totally different person today. Every topic, touch and even glance has suddenly turned a potential minefield.”
The teenager suddenly seems mysterious, and you seem to be living with an imposter in your child’s body! Years of parenting confidence could be shaken by the onset of a child’s adolescence.
So, I did some more digging and was pleasantly surprised to find a whole lot of researchers dedicating their lives to understanding just the Teenage Brain! So, it’s not them, it’s their brains!!!
Recent scientific research points out that the human brain undergoes specific and dramatic development during adolescence offering new physiological “explanations” of teen behaviour.
To help parents deal with this turbulent phase, we put together this simple Infographic to bring you the latest in the Adolescent Brain Research from many leading researchers in the field. They seem to have answers to the Teenager Tribe’s puzzling need to be impulsive(read, stupid!) and talk non-stop on the phone(even though they have been together for the last7 hours in class??!!!!) Yeah, some very puzzling questions answered here!
So, here goes!
When a baby develops, we go through the process patiently- even make it a point to enjoy every phase of it. When similar iconic developments take place in our teenager’s brain, we suddenly feel alienated and out-of-place. That’s because most parents feel that parenting till teenage almost signals the end of parenting. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Adolescents need their parents much more now, if only for that much needed familiar ground they will fall back on – while they intensify their quest for identity!
What have your experiences with teenagers told you? Let us know in the comments below!
About The Author:
Devishobha Chandramouli is the founder of Kidskintha- a site dedicated to creating happy children. She believes that growing up well and happy is a function of growing up with well-informed adults. This site aims to deliver research-grounded and bite-sized pieces of information on two important facets of a child’s life- parenting and education. You can find her voice on the Huffington Post, Citizen Matters , Nectar and Lies About Parenting.
Devishobha is the founder of Kidskintha- an online parenting resource repository dedicated to jumpstarting conversations around millennial parenting, encouraging parents to bring their attention to words, thoughts and actions that will enable them to raise a well-rounded, empathic and motivated generation. You can also find her on the Huffington Post, Parent.co, Entrepreneur, Lifehack, TinyBuddha and many other publications.