Grit
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I came across this very engaging talk on TED recently where this young lady emphatically says put forth that GRIT is the deciding factor for success beating all other factors, even IQ.

Naturally, it got me thinking about how far parenting can help in raising gritty children.

First off, is grit an acquirable trait? or is it inborn?

We thought that leaders were born- if it were true- leadership training and consulting across the world wouldn’t be such a thriving business.

SO, let’s take a typical scenario where the child absolutely wants that painting done. AT ALL COSTS. THE WAY SHE WANTS IT.

There are 2 ways to look at this behavior. You could ground/spank/scold her for being stubborn and adamant. The other option is to look at her as being extremely self-willed- or gritty. Let’s call it Positive grit.

Here is another scenario- The child simply refuses to do her BORING math homework. Again, she is expressing self-will here; in the way she knows best. Crying, scowling or simply ignoring you! Let’s call it Negative grit.

The same child who showed grit in getting that painting done might show the same grit in NOT doing her math homework. So, how are we to judge traits of grit here? A thing of certainty is that grit comes naturally when you want to do something. So when we give the child something that she is not naturally inclined at, are we not taking time away from what she likes- and in turn taking time away from resurrecting the gritty trait in her? And if we do succeed- which gritty trait have we fed? The Positive or the Negative?

Parents, Teachers, Educationalists- food for thought???

 

 

3 Comments

  1. Anonymous says:
  2. srividya says:

    Of course in the role of a parent, one cannot pander to all the whims and fancies of a child, because you know there is only a small stretch of imagination between self-willed and pigheaded. Your job is to sometimes decide for the child, keeping its well being in mind. So I don’t think that means you are grinding down traits of grit in the child’s nature.
    I believe that in the long run, grit is a combination of two primary traits/ outlooks – 1) positive self-worth/image and 2) optimism/hopefulness. These two are important, to maintain mental strength and ‘grit’ through undesirable or difficult circumstances and work toward the future. So just take each case on its own, and evaluate if you have kept these two mental habits strong in them. Then, I believe you have done well by all means!

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Devishobha Chandramouli

Devishobha is the founder of Kidskintha- a global parenting and education collective, and the host of the global virtual conferences hosted on the platform. You can also find her voice on the Huffington Post, Mother.ly, Entrepreneur, Lifehack, TinyBuddha, Thought Catalog and many other publications.

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