Reality check!  Mom

You pictured yourself to be that mom featured in that muesli advertisement or that holiday plan billboard- always smiling while gathering your kids in your arms, with the spotless kitchen, with the perfect wardrobe, with the freshest linen on the bed.

You promise yourself that you will give your children the healthiest of foods, the nicest of clothes, never allow them screen time, read to them everyday, sing that favourite lullaby of yours- every night, help them oh-so-breezily with their homework, teach them to be brave, strong , never ever yell at them( how can you yell at a child)- oh, the perfect mom that you will be!

Come Parenthood – There’s one promise you make – You will love her unconditionally. On the might of this promise alone, you battle the many uncertainties that parenting throws your way. You second-guess your every decision, feel guilty about venting your frustration, constantly look for something that re-assures you that you haven’t messed up.

Soon, your days and nights are muddled up, and the only right time to sleep is when that little bundle is asleep. You did not imagine that this little fellow could scare the wits out of you by just wailing it out- and he doesn’t even know words exist! Some days, you are so exhausted that your legs are shaking. Your kitchen looks like a perennial war-zone with no signs of redemption. The bed is where the baby is. And, by now- you are grateful if the bed is dry. Forget fresh linen. You are always running in circles feeding, burping, cleaning…getting puked on, peed on,…Did I mention the perfect wardrobe?

Some days, you are so exhausted that your legs are shaking. Your kitchen looks like a perennial war-zone with no signs of redemption. The bed is where the baby is. And, by now- you are grateful if the bed is dry. Forget fresh linen. You are always running in circles feeding, burping, cleaning…getting puked on, peed on,…Did I mention the perfect wardrobe?

As your baby grows, you will find yourself engaged in power battles like wrenching that spoon from her grip, before she stabbed herself in the eye, or that rinse-the-mouth exercise after every ride down the slide when you would be probing deep down her throat for a trace of sand without any of the fancy gadgets of a doctor.

The mealtime battles are familiar enough, but here’s a new one- the poo-time fight. You have lost count of the number of times you were so famished that you were grateful to see food. You feed the little guy his special meal at home; you arrive at the restaurant expectantly. The food finally arrives- but then there’s another unwelcome visitor; waiting in his diapers, screaming to be cleaned. You take a deep breath, hose him down and gobble your food in mortal fear of another disaster. The sleepless nights have now become the norm.

The mealtime battles are familiar enough, but here’s a new one- the poo-time fight. You have lost count of the number of times you were so famished that you were grateful to see food. You feed the little guy his special meal at home; you arrive at the restaurant expectantly. The food finally arrives- but then there’s another unwelcome visitor; waiting in his diapers, screaming to be cleaned. You take a deep breath, hose him down and gobble your food in mortal fear of another disaster. The sleepless nights have now become the norm.

I wish we had a prep course for real-life parenting. Parenting is hard work! You get no weekends off! No 8-hour work schedule.

During the course of your journey, your child makes new friends, gets bullied, gets shy, gets bold, asks for stories, doesn’t stop telling the stories she has read, stops eating, eats too much, loves school, invents excuses to avoid school, eats his lunch, comes back famished, loves his teachers, hates them, does his homework, avoids them, takes to a new sport, gets hurt, gets up again, screams for attention, shies away from attention, develops irrational fears, outgrows them, makes up stories, lives up to them, lies to you, feels guilty, avoids you, confronts you, apologizes to you, rolls her eyes at you …and before you know she is all grown-up!

And not long after, you are there, looking at all those old pics and thinking- gosh, it flew by me!

Hello! I am Devishobha, Welcome to Kidskintha!

I am the mom of 2 amazing energizer bunnies, Ananya and Ameya. As new parents, my husband and I struggled to find our way through the maze of parenthood. We had  our       moments- happy, worried, angry ,frustrated! Most times, we would just wonder what went on in their little  heads when they would just laugh helplessly or whine continuously. When their first words  emerged, we got a peek into their baby-world. When the words began to string into thoughts and  ideas, we gracefully accepted the invite into their guileless, magical world!

Kidskintha began as a journal of my daily conversations with my girls. Their spontaneous quips would  make  us pause and think. Or just crack us up! Or let us into their fears! As I wrote about our everyday conversations, I saw a lot of fellow moms enjoying them just as much as I did!

Slowly, Kidskintha  turned out to be a platform where moms checked in to have their daily dose of ‘funny’! It quickly became a platform where happy parents meet- or parents meet to get happy!

Last year, I decided to give our parents a HUGE surprise. I decided to give them something they could cherish forever. I collected a few of our kick-ass quips by our children, worked with a very creative artist, Ishan Trivedi and created Mana.

Mana represents the heart and soul of every child, and all our quips are represented through her. Here is some merchandise inspired by real kids and their quips.

Grab your piece of Kidskintha goodies! Tell us what your child quipped about- here!.

I also became more sensitive to the challenges of modern parenting (our parents hardly had to worry about screen time or mindless consumerism).

I began to write about modern parenting challenges and research-backed approaches to countering them.The overwhelming feedback I received from my readers has helped me spread my articles to the global audience.

I now write regularly on The Huffington Post, LifeHack, LiesAboutParenting, Nectar and many more.

I am also associated with  www.sixseconds.org (The Emotional Intelligence network) as a Social and Emotional Learning Enabler. In this capacity, I bring you resources from the latest research around the world- to raise empathetic, well-adjusted kids who are sensitive and aware of the changing world around them.

‘Nuff ’bout me! Let’s see what we can create together?

I am sure you have kept that one important promise to your child- to love him unconditionally. I am guessing, you reached here as a part of your quest to never fail that promise- to become a better parent. Which, of course, starts with being a better-informed parent.

Today, I would like you to make one more promise- to yourself. That you will enjoy every part of the journey and make yourself a Happy parent. You will pay attention to the small things and revel in it.

Whether you just want to drop in and have a good laugh over the darndest things kids can say; or want to share your child’s wisecrack with fellow parents, or jump in to find an answer to a particular parenting challenge; Kidskintha will be the perfect parent lounge for you.

Kidskintha also brings to your inspirational stories about fellow moms who broke the glass ceiling – and flew out of their shells. All this, while also being wonderful parents. Just how? Read about them here.

Parenting is one hell of a bumpy ride. But, don’t wish it away, yet!

All you have to do is jump onto the bandwagon with hundreds of other parents . And then enjoy the ride!